ALI XAVIER MA, BA (hons), DIPHE, MBACP (accred), FHEA

Hi, I'm Ali, and I am the founder and lead therapist at Tilia Therapy.

I offer a collaborative, dynamic, and deeply compassionate approach to psychotherapy. I work with adults and couples who are navigating some of life’s most complex and tender transitions—with a focus on enabling clarity, courage, and connection.

My style is relational and responsive: I aim to create a space where clients feel genuinely met, gently held, and encouraged to move forward as their whole selves. I believe therapy is a powerful container for change—where insight can meet action, and something new can take root.

My approach is grounded in curiosity, openness, and non-judgement. I work with care to create a therapeutic space where all parts of you are welcome—where you're supported in your becoming, and given the space to be fully seen and heard. Together, we explore what's emerging with gentleness and respect, allowing for depth, challenge, and growth at a pace that feels right for you.

In my recent work, I’ve supported women moving through:

the profound identity shifts that can come with new parenthood
the rebuilding of self after relationship loss
spiritual trauma and faith deconstruction
the emotional and embodied impact of post-termination experiences
recovery from addiction
and changes in relationships that ask us to reconsider who we are and what we want

I also work with couples navigating challenge and change. My work often includes:

affair recovery
supporting partnerships where addiction is present
and nurturing understanding across diverse cultural or relational backgrounds, with a focus on communication and reconnection

Alongside my clinical work, I’m proud to be the Lead Tutor at the Heart and Mind Counselling Diploma, where I support the next generation of therapists. My professional background also includes roles as Head of Student Support at a Higher Education college and Lecturer with the Open University.

At the heart of my work is a belief that therapy is a place to reclaim your own voice, anchor back into your self, and move forward with greater clarity, courage, and care.